8 Things To Tell Your Children Always
Throughout our lives, we need to feel loved in order to fulfill our potential and improve ourselves all the time. That is just one reason why it is so important to tell your children you love them.
As human beings, we need affirmation of how much we are appreciated, admired, liked or loved to feel good. The more we are loved, the greater our wellbeing.
Why is it important to tell them we love them?
When we say that it is necessary to give your child affection so that they can grow up emotionally healthy and happy, what we mean is that it’s important to show our feelings for our children to feel good. Through these different expressions of affection, we reinforce their wellbeing.
This doesn’t mean constantly repeating cheesy phrases or doing everything for them. This way, you will end up spoiling your children, and can even encourage controlling behaviors that are not the way to emotional health.
Create an assertive but affectionate environment, which will allow them to grow up emotionally healthy and develop as individuals in society.
Verbal expressions of affection are one of the magic ingredients in this potion. A good dose of praise comes along with love, understanding and acceptance. In this sense, proponents of “positive education” say that through verbal expressions of affection, children feel not just loved but also protected.
We will now look at some of the best things to tell your children to remind them how much they mean to you and strengthen their emotional wellbeing.
As the expression says: there is nothing better than saying the right thing, at the right time, in the right words.
8 things to tell your children
- I love you! It’s never a bad time to reiterate how you feel about your child and strengthen the emotional bond between you.
- You make me so happy. What is better for your child than to know that they are the one that brings joy into your home and your heart?
- You are wonderful. Always remind your child of the good things they have to offer. Motivate them to finish what they start. Help them up when they stumble. Build their self-esteem with a sense of security and let them know what they are worth. Give them independence and autonomy to stretch their wings, based on what they are and what they can become.
- I believe in you! Another phrase that your child needs to hear. Tell them again and again that, with effort and dedication, everyone can be what they want to in life. They just have to work for it, with discipline and perseverance. It doesn’t matter if, from time to time, your little one feels like they are “bad” at something. Remind them that you believe in them, and you will give them some of the support they need to keep trying.
- I’m very proud of you. Without a doubt, this is one of the most important things to tell your children. Always show how proud you are of every step they make, however small. It doesn’t matter if these steps are slow; what is important is that they are sure. In other words, tell them how proud you are of what they are doing. It will make them stronger.
- I’m absolutely confident that you can do it. Show your little one that you have full confidence in their skills and abilities. Feed their skills, even when they feel defeated. But don’t wait until they feel bad to tell them this. Try to do it in good times and bad.
- I love spending time with you. Careful with this one. It’s not just a matter of telling them you enjoy their company, but showing them. There is no better upbringing than the one that offers true quality time. By spending time with them, doing activities and playing together you build the bond between the two of you. Learning, having fun and loving one another in your free time is a pleasure.
- I am thankful for our time together. Explain that you feel like you couldn’t be any luckier, from the time you first felt them move in your belly. Tell them that you have never been happier than when you laid eyes on them for the first time. You will realize that you are not alone in being thankful. Your children, too, are happy and grateful to have their mother with them.
As you can see, these are eight very simple things to tell your children, but they have unlimited potential. It’s all about being a good communicator and expressing your feelings to the ones you love.
If we are able to put our feelings into words, we can provide a good childhood for our sons and daughters. Remember, your love for them is what will shape their future wellbeing.
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