8 Important Lessons to Teach Your Teenage Children

The adolescent years have a tendency to be a complicated time both for parents and teens. Take advantage of these 8 important lessons and put them into practice with your adolescent children.
8 Important Lessons to Teach Your Teenage Children
María Alejandra Castro Arbeláez

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist María Alejandra Castro Arbeláez.

Last update: 27 December, 2022

In today’s society, children and teens are constantly bombarded with information. With distorted morals and such a subjective image of what is and isn’t acceptable, parents face a major challenge.

While it isn’t easy to shape an adolescent’s values, it’s easier if you start from a young age. To do this, keep the following important lessons for teenagers in mind.

Be sure to offer your children an adequate environment that recognizes the importance of values. Within a healthy environment, you have better chances of raising children that are healthy both physically and emotionally .

“It’s impossible to think that maturity and full health can develop in an immature and unhealthy social context”

–Donald Winnicott–

The most important lessons for adolescents

1. Values are truly important

Virtues and values are simply concepts until we start to apply them.

From the time your children are young, demonstrate what behavior or reaction is correct in different situations. Remember that the consequences of one’s actions are what makes a person acquire maturity and conscience.

8 Important Lessons to Teach Your Teenage Children

2. Empathy makes you a better person

One of the most important lessons you can teach a teenager has to do with empathyEmpathy is the foundation for recognizing others as equals, worthy of good treatment. The only way to develop this characteristic is by receiving empathetic treatment.

Before questioning or making judgements about the way others act, you need to put yourself in their shoes. That’s what makes it possible for you to enter the situation and be more understanding of others.

3. The decisions you make should be based on your values

During adolescence, children face situations every day where they need to make decisions. Teach them that whatever they decide to do should be based on the values they received at home and at school .

If you’ve given your child a good upbringing, they’ll be less tempted to do things that could have negative consequences.

4. Helping others is enriching

Human beings can be very selfish, especially during this time period. One of the best lessons that teenagers can learn is to help in their community.

Being a volunteer or participating in a project that benefits others will help to form your teenager’s character. A person who helps others also values what others do for him or her .

5. Not everything you see in the media is true

The ability to discern between right and wrong, according to one’s values, avoids risks and problems. You should teach your children no matter how attractive something appears, it won’t always be good .

This lessons helps teens learn to distinguish between what is good for them and what is not. Of course, they should evaluate everything in light of their own principles.

6. Taking care of your money and your personal belongings is fundamental

Saving money is a great habit to instill in your children. Avoid giving them everything they want as soon as they ask for it. Create strategies that allow them to obtain what they want on their own.

Assign some household chores that your child can complete in order to earn and save money. This helps children learn the value of money and hard work.

8 Important Lessons to Teach Your Teenage Children

7. Rules build character

Insist everyday on the importance of discipline and following rulesWhile your children may not accept that at the moment, over time they’ll come to realize that rules are necessary for living in a community.

Emphasize the need to establish codes of conduct in order for society to function. Respect and tolerance are a key part of coexisting in society.

8. Healthy habits are essential

We can’t wait until our children are teens in order to start teaching them important lessons. From the time they are small, we need to teach them the importance of caring for others and themselves.

Encourage your children to participate in sports, to make good decisions about food, and to see the doctor regularly. Those who take care of their bodies and minds have better self-esteem and confidence .

Educating your children during adolescence is fundamental so that they can carry those lessons into adulthood. In this stage of life, they affirm the foundations and principles that they will follow the rest of their lives .

Make a maximum effort to maintain open communication with your children in order to accompany them down this path.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.