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“Why do you feel exhausted? All you do is care for your child!” If someone ever says this to you, defend yourself firmly, because according to experts, the exhaustion of mothers is justified and has a name: hyper-vigilance stress.
The situation, as we already know, gets much more complicated when we combine the responsibilities of work with those of parenting.
However, many mothers feel they cannot “complain” about their fatigue and stress if they choose to stay at home for a few months or years to focus on raising their children.
It is as if they have no right to feel exhausted. As if tending to, feeding, monitoring, guiding, teaching and educating was tremendously easy. As if mothers just have to be supervisors for their children.
It is not like this at all. At You Are Mom, we want to talk to you about this not very well-known aspect that shouldn’t go unnoticed: hyper-vigilance stress.
We will begin by defining hyper-vigilance stress. It is a state of mental and sensory hypersensitivity caused by very specific things: detecting threats and dangers.
This psychological pressure causes people to run out of energy, feel more tired than usual and even behave more irritably than usual.
Now, the curious thing about all this is that, generally, hyper-vigilance stress is associated with “soldiers and warlike contexts.”
The same thing happens with parenting. It may seem ironic, but it is not at all. Mothers – and also fathers – should be alert in order to, for example, feed their baby every three hours.
You’re exhausted because all your senses are deployed like a radar 24 hours a day. It is not just about taking care of your children’s needs like feeding and grooming.
We’re primarily referring to mental pressure, of the desire for everything to be well, for our children to be safe, happy, peaceful… Because sometimes, a little carelessness causes an accident or a fall, and that is something that causes us a lot of anxiety.
So if someone criticizes the fact that you feel exhausted at the end of the day, defend yourself. Your work is like that of a soldier on a battlefield: you have to guarantee the security of what is most precious to you: your child.
Being a mother is a task that goes beyond 24 hours a day. It’s something you’ve known for a long time. But you also know that the job of being a mother makes you happy and is the best thing that ever happened to you.
Now, it is necessary for you to be able to give your best to your children. Here are some tips worth following:
Do not be affected by what others may tell you. You have the right to complain and even ask for help if at any time you feel overwhelmed.
Try to do something throughout the day that will please you and relax you: read a book, take a walk… you will not be a bad mother for resting half an hour a day.