My Child Does Drugs: What Should I Do?

My Child Does Drugs: What Should I Do?

Last update: 28 July, 2019

Accepting that your child does drugs and deciding to face it with courage is the first step. Let’s lay all the cards on the table to find the best way to help teens with drug addictions.

When adolescence arrives, drug use is one of the major concerns that parents face. If you suspect that your child does drugs, the following article will provide you with useful information and advice.

It’s becoming easier and easier for teens to get drugs, and adolescence is a stage when teens are trying to figure out their identity. Therefore, they want to feel accepted, which is why they’re easily influenced.

Teens are the group most vulnerable to using narcoticsThe truth is, it’s a stage of physical, emotional, psychological and sociological development. Therefore, they’re more sensitive to falling into any type of addiction.

Possible reasons why your child does drugs


It’s very common for teens to do what they see others doand this doesn’t only mean friends. If people in their family do drugs or think legal or illegal drug use is normal, it might be a reason why your child does drugs too.

False sense of security

They’ve grown, their body has changed, and they think they’re on top of the world. Additionally, they think that nothing can hurt them. Generally, they think they have a lot of power, even though they’re afraid of everything changing. Therefore, they’re more daring and want to be in control at all times.


They’re trying to see how far they can push the boundaries. They want to find their individuality and break away from their family. In addition, teens want to experience and try new things.

The first thing you should do is check if your child does drugs. Just being suspicious isn’t enough to act. If you’re wrong, you could damage your relationship and their trust.

My Child Does Drugs: What Should I Do?

Warning signs

These are clues in your child’s behavior that might tell you that something is happening:

I’m positive my child does drugs, now what do I do?

Of course, this is a very hard time for the whole family. It’s normal for you to feel frustrated, helpless, upset, sad, angry and even guilty. However, it’s important to act.

Talk to your child

Try not to be too dramatic or make him feel guilty. Don’t use phrases like: “I’m disappointed in you.” In fact, that will only make the situation worse. You need him to trust you to help him, so you’ll need to use a little extra empathy.

You need to know what your child’s drug use is like. Find out if he only tried it once, does it occasionally or does it regularly. You’ll need to be honest and follow up afterward.

“Often, teens think that nothing can hurt them. Generally, they think they have a lot of power, even though they’re afraid of everything changing. Therefore, they’re more daring and want to be in control at all times.”

Get help if your child does drugs

We must be very clear that this isn’t a situation that you can face without experts who support and guide the whole family. You need to have all of the information about the drug that your child uses. They can tell you how it can affect your child, what kind of addiction it causes, etc.

It’s not enough to just know that drugs are bad. You need to understand the damage they do to your brain, circulatory system, respiratory system, and psychological state.

Keep in mind that you explaining the damage to your child isn’t as effective as a professional. Go to a health center. There, a doctor can explain the risks and will do an analysis and evaluation to refer you to a specialist, if necessary.

Psychological help is also very important, not only for your child, but others that live with the problem, like parents and siblings. It’s a very difficult time, and the family as a whole suffers.

My Child Does Drugs: What Should I Do?

A healthy lifestyle

Now more than ever, your child needs to start healthy habits in his routine:

  • Eat healthy and nutritious food
  • Drink lots of water
  • Encourage some physical activity, like playing sports or exercising
  • Find alternatives, hobbies, or new inspiration
  • Make sure to get enough sleep

You need to be very clear and set strong, firm and loving limits. This isn’t a game, and your child needs to know that his actions can have serious consequences. On the other hand, your love and understanding will be more important than ever. Therefore, be compassionate and open to always listen.

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This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.