Tips on How to Make Children Feel Good

29 August, 2018
Childhood is a time of development and formation of an individual's personality traits and mentality. As parents, we should instill positive attitudes that make children feel good.
 
Feeling good is a broad concept that no doubt varies in interpretation from one person to the next. However, there are some basic “requirements” that are needed in order to make children feel good in general.

In the following article, we’ll look at what this means for little ones and how we can help them.

A person’s happiness and self-realization depend on several different aspects. Over time, each step in a child’s growth and development ends up forming the type of person he or she will become. What’s more, they also impact the child’s way of life today.

As parents, we’re responsible for this development. Each action that we take with regards to our children’s education and growth is like a brick. These bricks pile up one on top of the other to create a building with certain characteristics.

Surely, you’ll wonder what’s the best way to provide the most positive and pleasant upbringing for your childWell, first of all, we want to let you know that it’s no easy task. However, we’ll provide a few suggestions to guide you in helping your children feel good.

Key factors in helping children feel good

As we said, there are many factors that make up a person’s physical, psychological and emotional well-being. Here we’ll concentrate on several aspects that we need to focus on if we want out children to feel good.

Self-confidence

Individuals who value themselves and believe in their possibilities will surely feel better in general than those who do not. Children need to believe that they’re able to surpass themselves and break through their own limitations. 

These positive thoughts will give them the ability to trust that they can reach their goals. This also has a tremendously beneficial effect on their problem-solving and social skills.

People who value themselves also value those around them.

“Happiness is not the absence of problems, it is the ability to deal with them”

Good values

Modeling what it means to be a good person and how to achieve it is essential if we want to help our children feel good.

Tips on How to Make Children Feel Good

Why? Because others will appreciate it when we act this way. Therefore, your child will always have someone to turn to and trust when needed. We can only achieve social acceptance by offering others what we ourselves wish to receive.

For this reason, it’s important to encourage the development of the following values:

  • Friendliness.
  • Gratitude.
  • Empathy.
  • Tolerance of differences.
  • Tranquility and harmony.

Autonomy

Children who value themselves develop trust, self-esteem and the ability to solve problems.

Although it may seem contradictory, autonomy favors teamwork. This is because a person who is sure of his or her abilities will be more open to receiving constructive criticism from others.

To contribute to our children’s autonomy, we as parents need to resist the urge to solve every problem our children face.

This doesn’t mean abandoning them and forcing them to manage everything on their own. Rather, it means guiding them, allowing them to think for themselves, and try to find solutions. It means allowing our children to make mistakes in order to learn.

Parental affection

Without a strong affectionate bond that defends a child’s value and abilities, it’s almost impossible for that child to develop self-confidence. Parents should make sure their children feel listened to and, above all else, loved. This involves dialogue and also teaching through example.

Berating your children, complaining, scolding them and depriving them of things does nothing more than hurt a child’s self-image.

Of course, setting limits is important. However, parents should also look for the most pleasant and effective way to communicate. After all, the intention isn’t about prohibiting things for the sake of prohibition. Rather, rules are about guiding your children.

Tips on How to Make Children Feel Good

Objectives in life

Having a clear direction in life and, if possible, a plan of action, are vital when it comes to reaching our goals. This achievement in and of itself helps a person feel more satisfied.

However, not everything has to focus on obtaining these objectives. What’s more important is the path one chooses. Reaching a goal through pain and suffering only leaves a person with a sense of emptiness and a need for something more.

Rather, you should teach your children to enjoy the ride as they go after their goals. If you do, their satisfaction is sure to be complete.

“Start with big dreams and make life worth living”
–Stephen Richards–

Lastly, we need to point out that there is no magic recipe for happiness. Each child is unique, with his or her own mentality, personality and environment.

However, applying the above recommendations will no doubt be beneficial for your children. A child’s well-being is based on a number of factors, all of which are important.

 
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