11 Ways to Involve Your Children in Your Wedding

In today's article we'll present 11 tips for including your children in your wedding. This way, they can be an important part of the celebration and enjoy it to the fullest.
11 Ways to Involve Your Children in Your Wedding
María Alejandra Castro Arbeláez

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist María Alejandra Castro Arbeláez.

Last update: 27 December, 2022

Your wedding is the perfect occasion to celebrate love and family unity. Why not involve your children in such an important event?

Your wedding ceremony won’t only give them the opportunity to play an important role on this special day, but they’ll surely be excited about helping with all of the preparations as well. Read the tips below and choose whatever you like most to involve your children in your wedding.

Depending on your children’s age, their roles in the ceremony and reception may vary. With that in mind, you can ask them what tasks they’re most comfortable with and listen to their thoughts.

At the same time, you need to give yourself the opportunity to enjoy their help and company on the big day.

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person”

–Mignon McLaughlin–

11 Ways to Involve Your Children in Your Wedding

11 ways to involve your children in your wedding

1. Walking down the aisle

Traditionally, it’s the father who accompanies the bride down the aisle. But how about mixing things up and having your children take you by the hand? Whether they’re children or teens, they’ll have one of the most important and symbolic roles of the entire ceremony.

2. Make vows to your children

This is an option whether you have children from a previous relationship, or you and your future spouse already have children together. Either way, your children will be surprised and overcome by emotion when you recite your vows to them. You or your spouse can write a commitment to your children that will be the heart of your family.

3. The symbolic exchange of an object

Parents and children can give each other an object that will serve as a symbol of the union you will form. Design a small medallion or bracelet that represents the connection between you as parents and your children.

4. A photography session

Without a doubt, you’ll want to preserve the memories of such an important day. Another way in which you can involve your children in your wedding is to invite them into your photo session.

11 Ways to Involve Your Children in Your Wedding

5. A choreography or other artistic number

During the reception after your wedding, your children can put on some sort of artistic performance. Take advantage of their talents and allow them to take center stage. It’s a good idea for the bride, groom and children to put on a show together that will bring you together as a family.

6. Photographs of the wedding

To involve your teenage children, give them a camera or cell phone. Ask them to be in charge of filming or taking pictures of the guests as well as you and your partner. Besides giving them something fun to do, you’ll have beautiful pictures to help you remember your special day.

7. Music and sound

Another great way to involve your children on your wedding day is to ask them to choose the music. Give them the freedom to choose the music for the reception and to invite the guests to participate in some game or activity. Your children will be sure to surprise you with their creativity.

8. Bridesmaids and groomsmen

There’s no rule that says that bridesmaids and groomsmen have to be adults. Why not surprise everyone by giving this role to your children. Not only will they have a leading role in the ceremony, but also in the planning. Ask them to help choose the decoration, for example .

9. Speech

What better way to welcome your wedding guests to the ceremony than for your children to give a speech. Help them prepare sincere and happy words to commemorate such a special day. For a few minutes, they’ll be the protagonists of the wedding celebration.

10. Cake figures

Bride and groom cake figures perfectly represent the union of husband and wife. Why not include figures of your children as well in order to symbolize the union of your entire family?

You can ask the cake maker to make figures out of fondant or acrylic that represent each member of the family. Without a doubt, you’ll be able to find talented bakers in your area or online that can recreate your features.

11 Ways to Involve Your Children in Your Wedding

11. The food and cake

When taste testing the food and cakes for the reception, ask your children to give their input. Give them the opportunity to choose appetizers, cake flavors, and dinner options.

Do you have another idea or suggestion for brides-to-be? Share one of the most important days of your life with the most important people in your life. Take advantage of your wedding day to create unforgettable memories for your entire family.

We hope that you’ve found these tips for involving your children in your wedding to be useful. Get ready to enjoy this amazing day with your loved ones!

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.