You’ve surely heard that the feelings you have towards your children are totally different from anything you’ve ever experienced before.
At the beginning of your pregnancy, you have nine months to wait and prepare for the arrival of the love of your life.
That being will change your world forever and will make you experience emotions that you could never imagine.
The moment your baby arrives in the world, you’ll understand that nothing else matters anymore.
At that precise moment, and also every time you look into his eyes, you’ll feel complete happiness. His look will offer you peace, purity and unconditional love.
A child immediately becomes the love of your life because the connection between the two of you is unmatched.
You have given him life. You have offered him a place to grow before going out into the world. Although he cannot express it to you, he knows it. That’s why he’ll want to keep you close forever.
Breastfeeding, having skin contact and hearing your voice, the same voice he heard for so many months in your belly, will only reinforce that unique bond. You may have doubts and fears along the way, but that is totally normal.
With time, you’ll understand that the arrival of your little one was the most beautiful gift that life could give you. It is the most beautiful sacrifice, the purest act of love you can conceive.
Insecurity and worry
The first trimester of pregnancy can be somewhat traumatic for moms. Many changes take place, both at the hormonal and physical level. Then, the physical discomforts, nausea and fatigue add to the insecurity caused by your future motherhood.
You don’t have to worry. The first thing you have to think about is that it’s a natural process for which your body is prepared.
If you’re having your first child and you think you cannot bear the responsibility, you shouldn’t be afraid of that either. You aren’t the first to face this challenge.
Many women have been in the same position as you and have borne it without problems. Your maternal instinct will guide you.
Also, don’t forget that you aren’t the only one waiting for the love of your life. There are many people around you who are available to help you with anything you need.
Your friends, your partner and, of course, the future grandparents are part of this process and happy to help you in any way they can.
Motherhood has a humanizing effect: everything is reduced to the essentials.
A mother’s brain changes from pregnancy
Did you know that science has shown that a mother’s brain changes during pregnancy? This fact is the irrefutable proof of the mother-child connection. The only purpose of these alterations is to protect the baby above all other things.
As a consequence of these hormonal modifications, the mother will be able to:
- Feel more empathy for the feelings of the child in her belly
- Perceive threats with greater accuity
- Note strange symptoms that may pose a risk to the baby
Of course, this has an explanation. The reason is that the amount of gray matter, which is responsible for processing information, is reduced in the brain. This reduction is due to the fact that the mother becomes more efficient for these tasks.
Therefore, you’ll be able to allocate resources to what matters most to you at this stage: taking care of the love of your life.
Preparing to raise the love of your life
Motherhood often exposes a person’s strengths and weaknesses. To achieve a strong and unbreakable bond with your little one, it will be essential for you to create it based on love and affection.
Although it may sound like a very broad concept, it is possible to apply it with small actions. For example, you should always keep in mind that it isn’t positive for you to reflect your frustrations, fears and insecurities in your bond.
On the contrary, leave him be and give him the tools and the courage to pursue his dreams. In the long run, seeing him trying will fulfill your own dream.
Another important aspect is to offer affection and love. Don’t underestimate the value of contact, caresses, hugs and, of course, understanding. Both when they’re a baby and throughout childhood, you should be by their side as they grow up.
Children who grow up with their parents’ support are stronger and more emotionally stable.
This is because the stress generated by not being protected consumes the brain’s resources and seriously attacks one’s self esteem and confidence. Please, do not inflict this damage on your child.
The love of your life is on the way. He waits for you as much as you wait for him. Don’t try to make everything perfect for his arrival, because this is almost impossible.
By just feeling the love of his parents and having contact with them, his days will be more than happy. And yours will be too.
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