Only Children: Is It Necessary To Give Them A Sibling?
Giving only children a little brother or sister means feeling the satisfaction of becoming a mother again. But beyond the benefits of a new pregnancy for you, there are other advantages. And these have to do with the little person that today looks up to you from around knee height.
One of the best gifts that you can give your child is a little brother or sister, even though you might question this when they argue over toys or ask you to be a referee in their fights.
In this article on You Are Mom, we will explain why it might be worth bringing another baby into the world.
The value of having siblings
How much is a sibling worth?
For someone who has grown up surrounded by brothers and sisters, the answer to this question might not be as meaningful as for only children.
If you are an only child, you will have felt the need for a sibling, whether to help you, give you advice or a pat on the back of encouragement.
If you do have brothers or sisters, and get along well with them, you will know that it is the most natural thing in the world to share their achievements as if they were your own.
You will know that they are with you in your worst moments. They are there for you whenever you need them.
If you have brothers or sisters, you might take it for granted that they are interested in and respect your points of view, even if they do not agree.
So, if your parents brought you up with an inseparable friend who you shared everything with, what are you waiting for? You know the value that a sibling has.
Reasons to give only children a sibling
There are other also advantages to bringing another member into the family.
Take note. If you give your child a brother or sister:
- You will be able to witness a pure, fraternal relationship between two human beings.
- They will get jealous and fight with their younger sibling for your attention, for space to play and all their belongings. But having another child at home will teach them the importance of sharing.
- Your child will have a friend when they need it most, and above all during hours of play.
- Your children will learn how to be social. They will get better at resolving disagreements to maintain friendly relationships with their peers. They will mature emotionally.
- They will learn how to work as a team and not be too individualistic.
Only children: do they need siblings?
Yes, they do. Just as much as they need you to love them, listen to them, support them, advise them, share the joy of their victories and give them encouragement when they fail.
Today, your child has you to do all this. But keep in mind that sooner or later, you will no longer be around. In your inevitable absence, wouldn’t it be good if your child had someone to depend on?
Now, before you decide to have another child, you should be sure that both you and your partner really want to.
Your family’s finances should be stable. If the budget is tight with just one child at home, with two you may have to tighten your budget even more, and do miracles to get to the end of the month.
For this reason, before you get pregnant, you should try to gain as much economic stability as possible. Saving now could get you out of a difficult spot in the future.
Finally, if you are thinking about giving your only child a sibling and everyone involved is happy about it, congratulations!
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