How to Recover Your Social Life After Becoming a Mother

It's undeniable how becoming a mother changes your life. In this article we're going to share some tips on how you can recover your social life after giving birth.

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist María Alejandra Castro Arbeláez.

Written by María Matilde

Last update: 27 December, 2022

We’d like to share some ideas and advice to help you recover your social life after becoming a mother. They’re mainly related to organizing your time better and day-to-day planning.

We’re aware that becoming a mother is one of the most significant experiences in a woman’s life, and that of her entire family.

Becoming a mother implies a whole series of changes on a physical, hormonal, psychological, emotional, and social level. This is in addition to the changes in daily activities. These now all revolve around the care and protection of your newborn baby.

There’s no longer any time left to rest well, go shopping, do exercise, and organize the house. And, above all, your social life can often seem to virtually disappear.

It’s now a question of completely reorganizing your day and your priorities. Your social relationships and going out are now very much relegated into second place.

Advice on regaining your social life after becoming a mother

• Plan your week so that one day will always be a day to see your friends, or for your partner to see theirs. Come to an agreement with them that that day is “unmovable.” It should be almost an obligation, along with all your other obligations that are related to raising your son and daughter.
• Ask your relatives, such as grandparents, to help you take care of your child. However, always try to give them advance notice. Although they’ll be happy to see their grandchildren, they too have the right to organize their own lives.
• When you go out with friends or colleagues, even though it’s often difficult, try to find other topics of conversation that aren’t just about the baby. Of course, your life has changed almost completely, but that doesn’t mean your friends’ lives have. Ask about their lives and show concern for them.
• Organize your time so that you can do exercise or take up a sport. Not only does exercise have physical benefits, but it also provides a break from your daily routine. In this way, you can relax, unwind, and socialize with other people.
• Decide on evenings that each of you can go out. This won’t only help you to recover your social life, but will also allow each of you to have your own social circles, your own space, and your own social activities.
• Don’t leave your hobbies or the things you enjoy doing to one side – always make time for them.

Some final tips

We must be aware that having a full social life, both as a couple and as individuals, isn’t a bad use of your time. Nor is it wasted time as regards to your baby – quite the opposite, in fact. It’s time that you’re investing in your own development and well-being, and that will certainly result in better relationships with others.

Last, but definitely not least, treat yourself, and indulge yourself from time to time. Find time in your busy schedule to go to the hairdresser, or to go out and buy some new clothes. Get rid of some of the typical social conventions, since all time spent on “superficialities” is time that you can’t spend with your newborn child.

Looking and feeling great on the inside and out, and feeling good about yourself in general, is extremely important when it comes to recovering the social life that you lost after becoming a mother.