Keeping Calm While We Educate Our Children: 9 Tips
Nowadays, we move so fast that keeping calm while we educate our children seems to be a really difficult task for us. This is because we’re always stressed, in a hurry, anxious, and impatient, due to our current lifestyles.
Maybe, it’s time to stop for a while and ask ourselves if there’s something we can change about ourselves. Can we keep calm while we try to understand and educate our children? In fact, this should be our goal: To control our emotions, which are usually responsible for our excessive reactions.
Keeping calm while we educate our children
It’s true that we all have accelerated lifestyles. At the end of the day, we’re all tired, moody, and stressed out. And, many times, our reactions to our children’s attitudes are not the best ones. In addition, we may forget to show affection, to have conversations, or even play with our children, without worrying about the time and other responsibilities.
What’s more, we may think screaming, threatening, blackmailing, or lack of respect are normal things when raising our children. At home, it might be very common to fight with each other. So, we may have to solve family conflicts that end up overwhelming us. Therefore, we’re educating our children without a proper balance.
We either praise our children excessively or we demand too much from them. Furthermore, we contradict ourselves, we label our children, and we hurt them while doing it. And we lose our temper easily. In conclusion, we end up being the worst example of what healthy communication is.
How to educate our children without losing our temper
Even though it doesn’t seem to be an easy task to keep calm while we educate our children, we can do it if we follow an educational model that fosters our children’s growth and development. This would be a model based on respect, love, understanding, empathy, and honesty.
How can we do it? In order to do it, we must take care of our children by protecting them, being firm, being nice to them, praising their efforts, and showing them support through our words. What’s more, we should love them unconditionally and foster a healthy attachment, validating their emotions and making them feel loved and valued.
By doing this, we’ll help them make an effort every time they want to accomplish something. At the same time, they’ll accept their mistakes as a part of the learning process.
Of course, we should be able to differentiate between positive education and excessive tolerance or permissiveness. It’s not about having no rules and letting them do whatever they want. Positive education is about discipline based on respect, limit setting, and rules. This way, they’ll be able to make responsible decisions throughout their lives.
Tips to keep calm while we educate our children
Next, we’ll show you some tips you can put into practice to keep calm while you educate your children.
Try to keep calm and be empathetic when they show their emotions
Let them know that there are no good or bad emotions. There’s always a reason why they feel a certain way. In fact, you can give them tools to identify them, share them, and deal with them properly.
Form positive bonds with your children, making them feel loved and accepted
Show them affection and love. Loving words and kisses are essential in order to educate our children and form positive bonds with them. In addition, they must know they can trust us. In order to do this, we must be there for them and show them we love them.
Set clear limits and rules without losing your temper
Limits and rules are a positive resource because they provide confidence and self-esteem. They also create bonds and they help children know how to behave.
Learn all the characteristics of the different educational stages
You should be the first to know all the characteristics of the different educational stages in order to understand their reactions, behaviors, thoughts. This way, you’ll be able to help them depending on their different needs
Solve conflicts in a positive way, without punishments or threats
Using resources, such as active listening and negotiation to find solutions will help you solve problems in an empathetic way.
Trust in your children’s abilities
You should let them try to solve their own problems in an autonomous way, by making their own decisions. Furthermore, you must always value their effort and evolution.
Teach them important values
Teach them values, like respect, cooperation, solidarity, gratitude, willingness, honesty, etc. As a result, these values will help them face life with illusion and bravery.
Dedicate time to yourself; if you’re not ok, they won’t be ok either
If parents don’t take care of themselves, their children won’t be ok. Therefore, it’s very important to work out, eat healthy, and dedicate time to be with friends and family. As a result, parents will be healthy, both physically and emotionally.
Be aware that, if we’re rude to them, we damage their self-esteem and personality
Screaming, rudeness, lack of respect, and comparisons damage our children’s self-esteem and personality. If you treat them like that, you’ll be promoting a lack of confidence, sadness, guilt, and pain. Therefore, it’s important to identify this behavior and correct it immediately.
About keeping calm while we educate our children…
Even though it may seem complicated, we need to keep calm while we educate our children. Don’t forget that parenting isn’t an easy task. It’s like a profession where you get your degree first and then learn how to actually do it. Furthermore, it’s full of complications and opportunities to learn throughout your whole life.
In conclusion, it’s very important to be patient and to show them our unconditional love. In addition, we must be firm but kind. And, finally, remember to enjoy every step of the way.It might interest you...
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