Stop Shouting At Home By Following These Tips
Shouting at home is common among many parents when they’ve reached their limits in situations regarding their children.
However, even when we reach the point of losing control it is still possible to reverse the situation in order to achieve a peaceful and respectful environment.
When a child gets accustomed to their parents’ shouts of anger, they slowly stop reacting to it and they develop “defence mechanisms” in order to protect themselves.
Follow these tips if you would like to stop shouting and manage situations properly.
Stop shouting at home by developing self-control
Make a commitment to communicate with your children with a moderate and respectful tone. The best way to make your children speak to you properly is leading by example. Speak respectfully and calmly even when you are in a frustrating situation.
Learn to manage your emotions in a healthy way. You are a role model for your children. The way you act will help teach them how to master their feelings and reactions.
Children will learn to be empathetic when you show them the right ways to act. They will follow the examples set in the family. A child will start to speak back in a bad tone if that is how you speak to them.
Remember that children act like children. They still act immaturely because their one and only job is simply to be kids.
The cerebral cortex develops fully during adulthood. During the maturation process you should accompany them, teach them how to better control themselves and how to live peacefully.
Show that you understand them when they express their feelings to you. If you let them know you understand how they feel in a certain situation, they’ll see they can also understand how you feel.
Understanding makes it harder for children to cross limits and have unhealthy reactions.
Don’t harbor resentment. If you have something to say, or if you have had a bad day, relax before interacting with others.
The accumulation of negative thoughts and emotions makes it easier to have irrational encounters with your children and family in general. Try to be composed when reacting to situations.
Remember to keep your child’s perspective in mind. When you are going to establish a rule or correct incorrect behavior, you should always have your child’s perspective in mind.
Try to make your children want to conform to your rules. They shouldn’t feel compelled to conform just because you say so.
Be silent in times of true anger. If you are upset, avoid reacting in an aggressive way. If you cannot control your words, it is better to be silent.
Take a deep breath, think of something relaxing and avoid saying hurtful things to your children when you are irritated.
Words can have a negative impact on your relationship with your children. Be careful about what you say to them.
Avoid stressful situations. If you know that leaving the house in a hurry in the morning will trigger a stressful situation, then try to prepare yourself for the previous day to avoid stress.
If you know that you will be stressed while doing chores with your children, try to think of different ways to address the situation. You can also ask for support from other family members.
Practice physical activity as a family. Exercise is one of the most effective ways to deal with stress. After half an hour of exercise your mind and body will be more relaxed allowing for a healthier environment.
If you make exercise a daily activity in your family, you will undoubtable improve your relationship with your children. As a result, this will reduce the amount of shouting at home.
Keep some distance when necessary. If you have reached your limit and you know that you might lose control, keep some distance from your children while you take some time to meditate on how to approach the problem objectively.
Remember, avoid talking when you are losing control because you can cause undesired effects with the phrases you say. Take a deep breath, relax and keep some distance when you need it.
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