Social Isolation in Adolescents
At a time when young people seek to reaffirm their identity and personality, sometimes adults are too quick to let go of their hands. This is how we come to naturalize the social isolation of adolescents. But when should we pay attention to it and when does it become a risk factor? Let’s take a look at some clues.
What we should know about social isolation in adolescents
First of all, it’s important that we try to understand what adolescence is. It’s a developmental stage where identity and autonomy are the main issues at stake. Who am I? What and I like? How do I want to be? These are some of the questions that haunt the heads of adolescents. Here are some of the causes that help to explain their social isolation.
Physical and emotional changes
As happens to us adults, teenagers sometimes choose social isolation in the face of the emotional turmoil they’re going through. Often, they feel happy, sad, powerful, and small all in a matter of hours. Dealing with these changes is complex, so they prefer to withdraw into their world, usually in their room, where they feel safe.
Problems in their relationships
On the other hand, the decision to isolate sometimes has to do with something that’s happening in their relationships. For example, they don’t feel comfortable with their group of friends, they’re the victim of bullying at school, or they’re going through a breakup, among others. Some of these situations deserve some kind of intervention, while others have more to do with letting time pass and offering to talk if they need to.
In other cases, isolation also has to do with the adolescent’s self-concept, that is, with the way they feel about themself. Adolescence is also a time marked by many noticeable physical changes that can affect security and self-esteem.
Finally, there’s a social factor that increasingly influences the habits of adolescents: The use of technology and the new relationships that are shaped by it. While it can be an ally, it can also make face-to-face encounters difficult, as adolescents resolve many activities virtually.
This can often lead them to feel uncomfortable or unsure of how they should relate in face-to-face encounters. Digital norms are often very different from real ones. Undoubtedly, this is a predictable consequence, as social skills also need to be learned, trained, and tested.
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What can we do about social isolation in adolescents?
It’s worth noting that isolation doesn’t always have to be a problem. Before defining it as such, it’s useful to observe to what extent it’s something that’s temporary or a situation that causes discomfort in the adolescent.
In this regard, observing that the young person would like to socialize, but doesn’t do so because they feel shy is one thing. But noting that they prefer to be alone because they need to relax is another. In any case, before considering it as a sign of alarm, it would be better to follow up. Some measures that you can take into account are the following:
- Identify the causes and recognize whether it’s a desired situation or not. In this regard, you must broaden our field of observation. It’s not only a matter of seeing how they behave at home, but also what may be happening at school or in other areas.
- Suggest that the adolescent participate in different activities. For example, joining a sports club, taking language classes, or volunteering. If they have difficulty socializing, you can suggest that they invite a friend or cousin to participate in the proposal. If it’s still difficult to make progress, you can be the one to accompany them at least the first few times.
- Talk to them. Getting closer, sharing, asking them about their emotions, and telling them about our experiences as teenagers is a good option. Even though we often think they’re running away from us, we’re still their main support figures. It’s best to leave the door open for dialogue and listening.
- Avoid questioning and persecutory dynamics. In this way, far from generating a climate of trust, adolescents feel that we’re invading them.
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Virtual relationships don’t compensate for real relationships
Adolescence is also characterized by the strong presence of technology. Young people take refuge for a long time in social networks, videos, and streamings of their favorite characters. Sometimes they even have a very active social life, but in a 2.0 format.
However, we mustn’t lose sight of the fact that virtual relationships are resolved on a different plane than face-to-face relationships. In face-to-face interactions, other skills are brought into play and interpersonal and psychosocial competencies are developed that end up defining our identity and self-esteem, among other things.
That’s why it’s important to know that technology must have a time and a space. We shouldn’t treat it like an enemy, but we should regulate its use.It might interest you...