While it’s true that all mothers have gone through pregnancy and childbirth, it’s also true that there are certain things that should never be said to a pregnant woman, much less when it’s her first pregnancy.
Things that should never be said to a pregnant woman
Talking about her weight
Weight is one of the issues that a pregnant woman can obsess over. In fact, it’s often midwives and gynecologists who contribute to the future mother’s concern.
Some specialists propose exhaustive monitoring of weight gain while others even propose meticulously controlling the calories ingested during each meal.
That’s why asking a pregnant woman about her weight will only increase her fear and stress. As a friend or a family member, the best thing you can do is motivate her to watch her diet.
Once she has given birth, encourage her to recover her figure within a reasonable period of time. This should be done without rushing her.
Share your own experience of childbirth
When a woman becomes pregnant, one of the first things she does is go to the maternity section of the library or book store. She does this in order to search for books about pregnancy and childbirth.
These books usually transmit the physiological and “medicalized” version of the moment.
That’s why most mothers are interested in knowing how the moment of childbirth will be from a more personal point of view.
If you’ve already gone through the experience of childbirth, you must know that every woman is different and that the difference is even greater when it comes to pregnant women.
It doesn’t matter whether your birth was wonderful or horrible, it’s best to share it with her in a neutral way. It’s important that the future mother doesn’t arrive at the moment of childbirth with predetermined ideas that may not be fulfilled.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk about the topic. On the contrary, you should share with her that every woman is different. This will prevent her from having biased opinions based on others’ experiences.
That they’re emotional or look tired
Progesterone and estrogen as well as a high sensitivity to radical changes are responsible for the series of changes that every pregnant woman suffers from.
It’s normal for them to have days where they feel more emotional and others where they feel like they need to vent and talk.
In any case, you should never tell a pregnant woman that she “is being too emotional.” Even if it’s true, she has a right to be.
It’s obvious that tiredness can occur more frequently during pregnancy. This is due to hormonal changes.
Drastic increases in progesterone, the hormone that regulates the reproductive cycle, also has a tranquilizing effect on pregnant women. This combined with trouble sleeping is enough to make fatigue a daily occurrence.
Before telling her she’s being too emotional or that she looks tired, try to put yourself in her shoes and ask her how she feels?
Encourage her to do exercise she didn’t do before getting pregnant
Sometimes when we have pregnant women close to use, we start believing that we can be their personal trainers.
We all know that exercise is good for both women who are and aren’t pregnant. However, if a woman didn’t exercise before getting pregnant, perhaps it’s not the best time to start.
Every pregnancy is different and there are women who suffer from vomiting and nausea for 9 months.
In addition, the 10–20 kilos that they gain can make it hard to even hear the word “exercise.” Therefore, don’t overwhelm pregnant women, let them do what their body allows.
Although the advice we give is loaded with goodwill, it can sometimes end up overwhelming or confusing a pregnant woman.
Therefore, if you want to help her, maybe it’s better to wait for her to ask for advice or simply for her to share how she feels with you.
In a lot of cases, all a pregnant woman needs is a friend who is willing to listen.