The Adventure of Being a Mother
The children of today will be the adults of tomorrow, so being a mother today entails a serious responsibility that shouldn’t be taken lightly.
The way we take care of and educate our children, as well as the good or bad decisions we make in this regard, will affect us in the future.
Our society has different opinions about motherhood. What is yours?
Welcome to the adventure of being a mother!
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself
In becoming a mother for the first time, you may expect perfection and to be up to par in everything. But in doing so, you’ll be placing a large emotional and physical burden on yourself that will eventually take its toll.
“Let everyone see how reasonable and gentle you are.”
“I had big expectations when my first child was born,” says Janet Penley, writer and mother. “I intended to be the best mother that ever lived. I read all the books and listened to all the specialists, but instead of feeling satisfied and competent, I ended up feeling inept and stressed.”
She explains that: “Trying to live up to the expectations of others and trying to adapt to an ‘ideal’ prototype makes you feel discouraged and generates insecurity and feelings of guilt.”
Being a mother involves change
Surely, you’ll be working both outside and inside the house, which can generate great stress in your life. Try to make positive changes that will help you feel less stressed. Perhaps you can work less hours or closer to home.
Regardless, always remember that you’ll still be a good mother, even if you aren’t able to cover and handle everything the way you’d like to.
Simplify your life
Being a mother will sometimes involve reflecting on the kind of life we lead and the kind of life we really want.
We can decide if we really need everything we have or if we can actually settle for less and spend more time on what is really important, such as our family and oneself.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help
Many mothers think they have to do everything without any help from anyone. They believe that if they ask for help, they won’t measure up to what it means to be a mother.
Nothing could be farther from the truth! The best thing to do is to ask for support from your family and trusted friends so they can help you out.
Additionally, if you have a partner, mutual collaboration will obviously be essential when it comes to dealing with the child or children, household chores, purchases, doctor visits, and everything else that is needed.
The help that others can lend you will be very appreciated and valuable.
Set aside quality time for yourself
As we’ve already said, being a mother means embarking on an adventure for the rest of your life and taking on an endless amount of work and hustle and bustle.
However, you must never forget how valuable you are, and that the first person who needs to be convinced of that is you.
Therefore, it’s essential that you set aside quality time for yourself. That means doing activities that you did before becoming a mother that made you feel happy.
“Time is money, but there is not enough money to buy time”
Try to find time to go out with your friends and have a coffee, go shopping, sleep more, or do any activity that refreshes you. Exercise to clear your mind and feel good about yourself.
If you have a partner, set aside time to be with them alone and do things together, so you can feel closer and strengthen your love.
Being a mother is an adventure that involves huge changes: to our bodies, our time, friendships, life as a couple, and ultimately almost every other aspect of our lives.
And it’s also a unique experience that will help you grow as a woman and value what is really important in your life.
So the question that arises for all women is this: Do you want to experience the adventure of being a mother?
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