You Are Your Baby's Home
You are your baby’s home, his small and magical universe. You are his source of nutrition, his refuge and his unending supply of affection. You are everything to your child.
At the same time, thanks to your child, your life overflows with joy, hopes, dreams and emotions that you never felt before.
According to a work published by the scientific journal “LiveScience“, maternity is unique and exceptional for many reasons.
So much so that, most of the time, we don’t realize just how many changes occur inside us when we become mothers. Our bodies, our brains and even the way we see the world all change.
It’s very important to keep in mind that being a parent is also a special time for men. Fathers often become sensitive during their partner’s pregnancy, knowing that in a short time, they will be holding a new life in their arms.
All of these occurrences, as strange as it may seem, do not always bring on the joy and happiness one might expect.
Mary Kimmel, director of the Perinatal Psychiatry Inpatient Unit at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill School of Medicine and professor of psychology at the same institution, addresses this issue.
She states that many women experience fear during pregnancy. They ask themselves if they are going to be able to handle it all, and they fear for their personal and economic stability.
Sometimes they even worry whether their relationship with the baby’s father will last or not. A mother might ask herself if she and her baby will be able to count on family and friends for support.
The fact that we mean everything to our little ones sometimes fills us with joy and amazement. Other times, this same thought plagues us with worry and anxiety. You should know right now that this is normal, logical and probably even standard.
Having a child isn’t just a responsibility, it implies bravery. It means having to face life even in the most difficult moments. Because you are your baby’s home, his refuge, and his link to the world.
I’m your baby, I was formed inside you, I feel your emotions… So don’t be afraid
Don’t be afraid. There’s no reason to fear the future. Your present, the here and now, is abundant with happiness and hope.
Don’t allow your fears and insecurities to weigh down your heart. The stress that we sometimes experience as mothers reaches the serene environment of the uterus. The cortisol in our blood impregnates the amniotic fluid that surrounds our developing babies.
So remember, mom, your baby wants you to be happy. He wants you to wake up every day of your life full of dreams, ideas, and hopes. Your baby wants you to be ready and eager to take on new challenges.
Your child knows who you are; that you are brave and capable of taking on any thing that comes your way. All he sees is a beautiful women that knows what she wants and what she doesn’t want for her beloved child.
Never lose sight of the importance of taking care of yourself every day and tending to your own emotions and psychological well-being. Taking care of yourself will allow you to give your best to your children.
You’ll always be your baby’s home
It’s often said that we carry our children in our wombs for 9 months, in our arms for 3 years, and in our hearts forever.
Because the wisest kind of home is the one whose doors are always open. It’s a home whose inhabitants are free to come and go whenever they want. And at the same time, they are always welcome to return.
However, something that we need to remember as parents is that this home is never more important than when our children are little. It’s during those early years that bonds must be built.
This first stage of your child’s life is referred to as exo gestation, which extends for several years after birth .
Babies need our physical closeness during this stage more than any other time in their lives. Our skin, our caresses, and our words create an invisible uterus that houses our babies as they continue to grow.
And when the time comes, our children will step out in freedom, independence and movement.
Never forget: Even if your child can’t put it into words, you are everything to him. You are his source of nourishment, his warmth, the lap he falls asleep on, and the chest upon which he will grow and mature.
So make taking care of yourself a priority. Be happy, be brave, and build yourself up as the type of person your child loves and deserves.
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