Speak To Your Child As If They Were Magical Beings
Speak to your children as if they were magical beings, made of kindness, endowed with humility as well as respect and wisdom. By doing this and believing it, you will get them to act this way. They will become incredible adults that will be shaped by the seeds you planted in them.
Something that many moms and dads know is that it’s not always easy to instil values in their children. The values that define them are essentially what will configure that worthy and respectful nobility with which they will be able to be happy and in turn provide happiness for others.
As we always point out here at YouAreMom, few things have more significance than leading by example. There is also another aspect that we should never lose sight of when parenting.
We are speaking about the need to be architects of knowledge that emerges from emotions. Knowledge that is capable of molding hearts and minds. Maria Montessori once said “you have to plant good ideas in children even if they don’t understand them, the years will be in charge of deciphering the ideas and making them flourish in their hearts.”
This architecture that is so educational and wonderful requires all of our energy and time. However, it is a daily effort that is worth investing a lifetime, as well as our hopes and dreams.
We will explain how to do this.
Your child is magical, let them see, feel and believe they are special
Making children believe they are special doesn’t mean making them think they are better than everyone else. It is allowing them to see the world with security, knowing they are loved, capable of fighting for their dreams, of having a voice in the world, of building their self-esteem day by day into a strong and valuable internal structure.
Take note of these simple strategies and daily actions that can allow them to achieve inner strength and make them feel valued and special:
- Give value and importance to everything your child says. Positively reinforce what they do well and avoid criticizing and punishing their mistakes. When they do something wrong, help them change their behavior by transmitting your confidence to them.
- Appreciate their value in public.
- Energize their imagination, offer learning opportunities that they’ll enjoy, where they can connect with you and their environment
Humility and kindness, two roots that help your child grow
Teaching our children about humility will allow them to learn how to better handle frustration. It will also teach them to share, to not be above anyone else and to keep others in mind. This will make those years between 2 and 6 which are usually characterized by classic egocentrism less intense.
Being kind is not only a matter of civic mindedness, it is a value with which to grow as people and it is also linked with humility.
With kindness it is also key to serve as an example on a day-to-day basis. Do not forget that kindness is also transmitted through language, tone and in the way our children see us treating others.
In order to instil kindness in your children, follow these steps:
- Teach them to say “thank you” and understand the value of this word in their daily activities.
- Teach them to share, wait their turn, to always be respectful. To understand that what you and I have can become “ours.”
- Allow them to interact with other children from an early age. This interaction with their peers will help them learn how to share ideas, tastes and preferences…
Your children are wise, transmit to them the love of learning.
A curious child is a receptive child. A child who feels free to interact, to ask, to approach us about their doubts and interests. They enjoy learning. We must promote this value of curiosity.
It is clear that not all children learn at the same pace. Every child has their own interests and different abilities. However, remember that all children are wise and have an innate ability to interact with the world. They have the capacity to get excited and see things from a different perspective that we as adults have lost.
We should reinforce this gift, the nobility and magic that allows them to enjoy things with such exceptional intensity. A child who feels comfortable, supported by their parents, loved and valued for all they can do, will be a child who enjoys learning. They will undoubtedly continue to increase their potential.
Remember to remind your little treasure every day that they are magical, wise, humble and very special.
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