Why Parenting as a Team Is Important in Your Children's Education
Parents are their children’s role models. And, the relationships they form while growing will determine the way they’ll relate to other people for the rest of their lives. Parenting as a team is important for children because parents are their emotional reference points.
By relating to their parents, children learn to communicate, listen and identify other people’s emotions, as well as share and understand nonverbal communication. Therefore, parents must work as a team in their children’s education. If they don’t do that, they may affect their children psychologically.
Why parenting as a team is important in your children’s education
As we all know, children are like sponges. They “absorb” everything they see from their parents or their primary caregivers. So, if we’re inconsistent, if we change our minds all the time, argue or don’t agree in our children’s education, we’ll end up affecting them.
In this case, children won’t be part of a consistent family model. And, it’ll result in lack of self-confidence.
When we don’t agree with each other and argue about our children’s education, we’re not attending their most important needs. This is why they’ll feel unprotected and insecure.
The following are different ways in which children express how they feel when their parents don’t work as a team in their education:
- Loneliness and concern.
- Frustration.
- Confusion.
- Everything around them is affected: school, friends, other family members, etc.
- Low self-esteem.
- Lack of confidence.
- Insecurity.
This is the main reason why we should work as a team in our children’s education. We should work together and help each other to provide them with a consistent education. As a result, they’ll grow up happy and healthy.
So, we must make decisions together and always take our children’s needs into account. Remember that this is a learning process and we’re allowed to make mistakes.
How can parents form a team in their children’s education?
Next, we’ll give you some tips you should bear in mind when educating your children. Then, you’ll be ready to form a team and work together as a united front. So, how can you do that?
Make sure to have fun with your family
If you do this, you’ll be able to reinforce coherence in education while having fun.
Talk about your problems in order to solve them when your children aren’t around
This will help you make plans, decisions, and respond to your children’s needs. In addition, it’ll help you get to know each other better. These conversations will also give you the chance to communicate your different points of view regarding your child’s education. Finally, you’ll be able to come to an agreement and work together.
Don’t correct each other
Since there’s no absolute truth, you shouldn’t force your partner to think the way you do, or the way your parents did. You have to come to an agreement and make your own plan to raise your children.
Don’t look for the perfect way to raise your children
To educate your children properly, you just have to do your best and work as a team. And, if you make a mistake, try to fix it.
Set some limits
You have to be clear regarding your own limits and the barriers you shouldn’t cross when parenting together.
Avoid the good cop/bad cop parenting model
Your children want to see you working as a team, and not as different people who make individual decisions. If one of you allows them to do things and the other sets the limits, your children will see you as good cop and bad cop.
Why parenting as a team is important
In conclusion, we’ve seen how it affects children when their parents don’t work as a team. Plus, we’ve given you some tips to work together when educating your children. You have to try to put yourselves in your children’s shoes and remember that parents are always their role models.
Finally, the relationship they form with you will determine the kind of relationships they’ll have with others. And, if they’ve seen their parents do it, they’ll also learn to negotiate. This is why it’s so important to work as a team and, above all, to love each other.
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- Valdés Cuervo, Á. A., Urías Murrieta, M. (2011). Creencias de padres y madres acerca de la participación en la educación de sus hijos. Perfiles educativos, 33(134), 99-114.