The Importance of Saying "I Love You" to Your Children

Do you know how important saying "I love you" to your children is? Here we'll give you the reasons why you should use these words every day.
The Importance of Saying "I Love You" to Your Children
Mara Amor López

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist Mara Amor López.

Written by Mara Amor López

Last update: 27 December, 2022

Did you know that saying “I love you” to Your children has very beneficial and positive effects on them? Therefore, we should use this phrase every day. Just two words have the enormous power to make them feel happy and confident about who they are and who they can be.

It’s very common for parents to have many affectionate gestures with our young children and frequently remind them how much we love them. But as they grow and advance in their development, these manifestations decrease in frequency and we tend to lose that magical connection that we’d achieved with them.

To prevent this from happening, we want to remind you of the importance of telling your child how much you love them today and every day of their life.

Three simple words with great power to unite

We all agree that these three words have a powerful meaning, and for this reason, we reserve them for those who are most special to us. Those that we love with all our heart and soul and who are the most important thing in our lives.

The words that make up this phrase have the power to end stress, anger, neglect, and forgetfulness. They even reconnect us with those people we tell them to. This message is very positive on an emotional level, as it awakens gratifying thoughts and sensations, both in those who say them and in those who receive them.

Therefore, telling your children these three words should be part of our daily communication, both in good times and in bad. When they flow naturally and when it’s a little harder to say.

A mother and her son bonding on the beach.
Love is the purest and noblest feeling that can be experienced. And it’s so intense that it’s worth sharing it with those we love most so that they can feel it too.

Reasons why it’s important to tell your children you love them

Next, we’re going to see some of the reasons why expressing love verbally is so valuable so that you can start incorporating it into your routine every day of your life. Don’t forget that these are two very powerful words and that, with them, you remind your children how much you care about them.

1. It allows them to grow up happy

Love helps us overcome the bad and enjoy the good that life offers us. Also, it helps to increase understanding and empathy. This allows children to grow up happy, in a loving, healthy environment, free from jealousy and excessive control.

2. Builds trust between parents and children

If we say “I love you” to our children and accompany this message with positive actions, we’ll allow them to know that they can trust us.

It’s normal for there to sometimes be conflicts and arguments, but your children will always know that you love them and that you always seek to do what’s best for them.

3. Boosts your children’s self-esteem

The affection that we transmit to our children has a great impact on their emotions. When we tell a child that we love them very much, we also reinforce the fact that we accept them as they are. This makes them like themselves and accept themselves more.

Self-esteem is the belief that each person has regarding themself, how much value they give themself, and how they accept themself, both with their strengths and with their weaknesses. A person who manages to understand that they’re valuable to others values themself better.

4. It brings them great joy

Whether you’re 5 or 95 years old, receiving verbal affection produces immense joy that puts a smile on the soul. Two such simple words can change the entire course of a bad day or your entire life.

5. Gives the message that it’s okay to make mistakes

Forgiveness is another manifestation of love because when we love, we also forgive mistakes.

Children who feel loved know that even after they make a mistake, they’ll be forgiven. That doesn’t mean that we should correct them, but we must do it with love and respect. Therefore, we’ll convey to them that to err is human and that there’s nothing to be ashamed of when they make a mistake.

6. Transmits tranquility and well-being to children

Affection and love help little ones grow up calm and secure, and in this sense, saying this phrase has a great impact on their emotional well-being.

7. It helps them not to feel afraid

Expressing your affection for your children drives away their fears, for whatever reason. People who feel loved are more prepared to deal with the fearful and insecure moments of life.

8. Provides hope

Knowing that we’re loved helps us feel valuable and this is very important in the life of a child. Not only does it produce well-being in the present, but it will also give your children hope to have a great future and achieve what they set out to do.

A father and son walking in a field at sunset.
Don’t miss the opportunity to remind your child of how much you love them every day of their life.

9. Stimulates the bond between parents and children, making it unbreakable

If we tell our children these three magic and also accompany them with positive actions, our bond will be strengthened to the point of being unbreakable. Our children will grow up with the purest, truest, and most honest love that exists, which is the one we have with them.

How important it’s important to express our affection to our children

As we’ve seen in this article, these are some of the reasons why saying “I love you” to a child matters. But, in addition to words, love is accompanied by gestures and actions. Therefore, teach them the value of hugs, positive communication, active listening, and smiles.

Children definitely need to feel loved, even more so when they think they don’t deserve to be loved. This is also true in adolescence, where parents come to occupy second place. Love must be shown every day with words and gestures, to ensure that our little ones grow fully and transmit that love to the world.

“True love is nothing other than the inevitable desire to help others to be who they are.”

-Jorge Bucay-

All cited sources were thoroughly reviewed by our team to ensure their quality, reliability, currency, and validity. The bibliography of this article was considered reliable and of academic or scientific accuracy.

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This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.