7 Keys for Your Child to Be a Good Leader

Being a good leader is key to being a good leader in any area of life. And this quality can be taught to children from an early age. Here's how.
7 Keys for Your Child to Be a Good Leader
Mara Amor López

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist Mara Amor López.

Written by Mara Amor López

Last update: 27 December, 2022

For a child to be a good leader, it’s often not enough to have innate potential; parents must encourage this virtue.

Leadership combines different individual characteristics that enable people to be constructive and rationalize their thoughts and ideas. A child who possesses or acquires leadership skills is more likely to benefit from their achievements in the future.

Despite the wishes of parents, fostering the qualities of a good leader is no easy task. But if we make an effort, we can help our children become adults who are capable of leading their lives responsibly and skillfully. So here are some tips you can implement at home today.

How to help your child become a good leader

Parents can help their children become good leaders. This means educating them to become responsible , empathetic, optimistic, creative, and honest people. To contribute to this task, it’s key to consider the recommendations we’ll provide below.

1. Promote communication

A good leader knows how to communicate and is fluent in it. Therefore, help your children to learn to relate in a casual way and to share their ideas in an assertive way.

The first step is to learn to listen because there can be no communication if you haven’t first heard what others have said. This is the only way to respond in the right way.

Another way to teach this skill is to let children speak when they want to tell us something. Sometimes, unconsciously, we interrupt them and make decisions for them. But when we allow them to express themselves and give their opinion before we reason ours, we get them used to listening first, thinking later, and responding appropriately.

A boys soccer team in a huddle.
A good leader knows how to work as a team to achieve the common goals that all members have.

2. Teach your child to be a good leader

Being a good role model will help our children learn to be good leaders.

If you want your child to be a good leader, you must first become a leader yourself. We must teach them how to act in certain situations and show them the right way to react. If you can do it, they’ll be able to do it, too.

3. Emphasize the importance of working in a group

Knowing how to act in a group is essential for success in life. Many jobs are oriented toward teamwork and therefore, it’s important that from an early age, we enroll our children in group activities. They can be sports, music, or any other field. The key is that children learn to identify with the interests or tastes of the group. Thus, they’ll unite with those people who have similar goals, with whom they’ll have to navigate in the same direction.

4. Teach them to negotiate

A good leader not only receives but must give and receive equally. Kids need to learn to negotiate with their friends, with their peers, or even with their family members at home. This way, they’ll develop the skills to reach peaceful agreements that leave all parties satisfied.

5. Encourage reading

Reading is always a precious commodity, but even more so for a good leader. Reading increases knowledge, vocabulary, and skills, and all this helps the child to be more fluent in the world around him. Therefore, it’s important to encourage reading from a young age, so that children learn about different reading styles and topics.

A child lying on the couch reading.
Reading is key to improving vocabulary and expanding knowledge. This helps the leader to be more fluent in their environment.

6. Help your child to plan and strategize

Knowing how to plan and strategize are two essential skills for a good leader.

When a child has a difficult task to do, it’s important to teach them how to make the best use of time by using an efficient strategy. For example, we can show them that if the task is divided into several parts and the duration of each part is defined, everything will end up being easier for them. It’s essential to emphasize the value of perseverance and effort to achieve what they set out to do.

7. Encourage them to be optimistic

Being optimistic is one of the qualities of a good leader. When you want to, you can; if you really believe in it, in the end, you’ll achieve what you set out to do.

It’s important to transmit to your children the importance of having optimistic thoughts in order to achieve success. Of course, never hide your failures, because you learn from your mistakes, even more than from your successes. In addition, learning to cope with frustrations and to see the positive side of things will help them to be good leaders.

About the keys to being a good leader, we can say…

Being a good leader is a fundamental quality to achieving success, both personally and professionally.

If we teach our children to be good leaders from an early age, they’ll surely learn it and will become that in the future. These keys can help you in your work, but always implement them within a framework of love, respect, and empathy.

All cited sources were thoroughly reviewed by our team to ensure their quality, reliability, currency, and validity. The bibliography of this article was considered reliable and of academic or scientific accuracy.

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