5 Keys to Pregnancy After Years of Infertility

To face a pregnancy after years of infertility, it's key to have support, deal with your fears, and trust yourself. Learn more!
5 Keys to Pregnancy After Years of Infertility
Samanta Ruiz

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Written by Samanta Ruiz

Last update: 16 December, 2022

If after many unsuccessful treatments, you finally confirm that you’re going to be a mother, you must prepare yourself to deal with new fears and emotions. For this reason, we’ll offer you these keys to facing pregnancy after years of infertility. It’s a list that can help you a lot in these coming months.

Although sterility is attributed in equal percentages to men and women, it’s the latter who carry the responsibility of reproduction on their shoulders.

“Both society and women themselves have internalized reproduction as something proper and exclusive that’s part of themselves and that constitutes a fundamental element of feminine identity”.

– Revista de Salud Pública, Spain-

For this reason, it’s especially painful for women when the goal of becoming a mother doesn’t come, just as it’s exciting when it’s achieved after years of infertility! However, in this moment of so much happiness, you have to make some adjustments to start enjoying yourself. Learn how in the following article!

After years of infertility, the news has arrived: You’re pregnant!

After numerous fertility treatments, several disappointments, and the thought of planning your life without being a mother, everything suddenly changes. A positive test puts an end to a path of deep pain and opens the door to what you’ve been looking for so long: The joy of being a mother.

Now you’re extremely happy, but at the same time, you have unknown emotions and you wonder how to face a pregnancy after years of infertility. Here are some keys for you to keep in mind so you can enjoy the coming months to the fullest.

A woman looking at a pregnancy test, perplexed.
Although it’s logical to feel fears and insecurities during pregnancy, it’s not good to be worried all the time. According to studies, the risk of your fears becoming a reality is very low.

1. Understand your fear and deal with it

Fear’s common for all pregnant women, especially when it comes to the well-being and health of the baby on the way. It’s normal for a new situation to cause uncertainty, but this shouldn’t lead you to the extreme of feeling guilty for feeling these fears. For example, research conducted by the University of Pennsylvania with a group of patients with anxiety concluded that “91.4% of predictions of worry didn’t come true”.

If you’ve had years of infertility with your partner, surely your fears are very well founded, but we recommend that you go through your emotions calmly. Day by day, those feelings of uncertainty and fear will begin to disappear.

2. Learn to manage your stress

Fertility treatments cause stressful situations. Now you’re pregnant, but you can’t help but feel a little overwhelmed because the emotions are too much. Both in the previous situation and in this new stage, the causes of this disorder are the same: Fear and uncertainty about what’s going to happen.

At first, it was whether you could ever get pregnant, but now the question is whether everything will go well. So, your body and brain worry about what will or won’t happen. In these cases, if you feel overwhelmed by this feeling, the best thing to do is to turn to a professional to tell you how you can learn to manage your stress.

3. Don’t deny your emotions, live with them!

In the first moment of shock after so many treatments and years of waiting, your emotions will go from fear to guilt, from anxiety to happiness, and from anguish to joy. And all that can happen in a single day. But don’t worry, it’s important to acknowledge emotions rather than ignore them. It’ll be best to move through them and manage them, as they’re all part of the process.

4. Affirm your self-confidence

You’ve just gone through painful procedures and multiple disappointments and grief. Now, however, you feel fear and anxiety, but also a lot of joy. Therefore, when doubts invade you, take a break, reflect, and think about the fact that you overcame a very difficult stage. And that was possible because you’re strong. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have persisted and you would have collapsed long ago. This is the time to recognize that you’re empowered, confident, and fulfilled.

A pregnant woman smiling as her partner stands behind her with his hands on her belly.
Trusting yourself and counting on your partner and loved ones will allow you to talk about your fears and receive the necessary support. You can also turn to professional help.

5. Form support teams

Now that you’re starting a new stage in your life and you have that knot of emotions, it’s best to have a support team always ready. On the one hand, there’s your partner and your family, with whom you can talk openly about what’s happening to you. It’s important to turn to these people who will take care of you with a lot of love.

You also have your healthcare team who will be there to answer all your questions and explain to you all the issues that have to do with your health and that of your baby. In addition, in case you need to reinforce extra support with your emotions and feelings, add a mental health professional who can guide you through this new stage.

Keys to facing pregnancy after years of infertility, a guide for your well-being

Finally, you’re going to be a mom! Now, start organizing your home, your baby’s room, your physical activities, your diet, and your work based on this new development. The dream’s already a reality and, the sooner you connect with it, the sooner you’ll feel better and you’ll be able to plan everything to enjoy every moment. Remember that all pregnant women have emotional ups and downs and you, with your previous history, are no exception!

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This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.