Preparing for Motherhood by Becoming a Better Person

Preparing for Motherhood by Becoming a Better Person
María Alejandra Castro Arbeláez

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist María Alejandra Castro Arbeláez.

Last update: 27 December, 2022

A future mother may have many things on her mind. Most of us don’t feel completely prepared to have a baby. There may be things we need to take care of before the little one arrives. Let’s hear from one mom-to-be about preparing for motherhood: maybe you’ve been through something similar.

Since I met your dad, my life has changed. In fact, I have to admit that the changes began even before we met. It was these changes that helped me to find the man I love and the one that I am starting a family with. The man who will fulfill my dream of being a mom; of being your mom.

I admit it: just like many other women on this planet, I want to be a mother. I want to hold my child in my arms and love them more than anything in this world. I dream of feeding my baby, bathing them, kissing them and watching them sleep. I long to see my child’s smile every morning, and to dry their tears with my kisses.

Yes, I yearn to be a mother. But more than that, I aspire to be the best mother in the world, and the best for my child. I want to be able to guide them through life with clarity, patience and tenderness.

I want to be a mother who can bring out the best in her children. Who can show them the meaning and the true value of freedom, beauty, honor, sincere smiles, honesty, of time spent as a family and alone. A mother who can teach them about true love.

I want my child to be more than a good little boy or girl. I want them to be happy. And every day, I am learning those things that human beings learn by example more than words. The more I think about it, the more I am motivated to become a good example. This is why, now more than ever, I know that in order to be a good mother, I must change.

drawing on preparing for motherhood

Preparing for motherhood by becoming a better person

Honestly, I think that I am a good person. But my sincerity also allows me to admit that I have many faults. I am convinced that every day is an opportunity to do better, to correct our mistakes and become the person that we want to be. This version of me is still under construction.

One of the most valuable lessons that I have learnt is that life is synonymous with change. Our circumstances are always shifting. The world itself is constantly transforming. And we must change too, or we will be washed along by the shifting tides.

The best process of change is the one that we conceive consciously. We encourage it and nurture it, little by little, at our own pace, joyfully.

I know that I must cultivate virtues like sweetness and softness. I am afraid that I have lost a little of both, in my time in this world dominated by men and women who compete fiercely in the job market. I have ventured into this world, and I have achieved success. But it has come at a cost to those I had to leave behind in order to get ahead.

Now that this desire for a family of my own has blossomed, I don’t just want to be a mother, I want to be an excellent mother. And so I must reshape myself. I find hundreds of things that I must do.

drawing of mother, father and baby sleeping together

I am making a home for you

Your father has awoken things in me that I thought I had forgotten. His love has revived my capacity for tenderness. But I have also realized that I must be firm. Not harsh, but firm, sweet and kind.

I have so many lessons to learn, and I also feel like I have a lot to teach you, my child. I am saving up thousands of sweet moments to make sure that I always have a smile ready for you.

I am rebuilding my personality, so that you can grow up with a mother who is good and wise. Right now, that woman is going through a transformation as she prepares to hold you in her arms.

I am getting ready to welcome you into the kind of home that you deserve. I am convinced that every soul chooses their parents before they are born. The more loving the home and the more desired the child, the higher the soul incarnated in the unborn baby.

This is something I read in a book, but I truly believe it, just as I believe that to live is to change. And that, my child, is why I am changing before you get here. I am turning into a better woman who will be able to be a better mother to you, to be by your side in this process of learning that which we call life.


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