20 Questions to Get to Know Your Teenager Better

Do you want to get to know your teenager better? Ask them these 20 questions. Some of their answers will definitely surprise you!
20 Questions to Get to Know Your Teenager Better

Last update: 02 April, 2021

During adolescence, many parents feel like they don’t know their children well enough. They tend to stop communicating as fluently and openly with them as before. Do you find yourself in this situation? If so, pay attention to this article. Here, we’ll show you a series of questions that can help you get to know your teenager better.

First, before asking your child these questions, you have to make sure to create a safe spaceTo do this, you must find the right moment when you both have time and are willing to talk. It’s important for the conversation to flow naturally, without forcing them to answer questions if they don’t feel like it.

20 Questions to Get to Know Your Teenager Better

The relationship between parents and children during adolescence

Usually in adolescence, the relationship between parents and children cools down. Young people pay more attention to their friends and feel the need to be more and more independent. This is a normal part of development and, as a mother or father, you need to know and accept this.

However, this doesn’t mean that you don’t have to go out of your way to bond with your teen. It might be more difficult now than when they were younger, but trying to have in-depth conversations with them is still very important. How can you do it? For example, you can ask some of the following questions.

20 questions to get to know your teen better

Here are 20 simple questions that will help you understand your child. Take note and use the ones that seem the most interesting to you!

  • If you could choose anywhere in the world, where would you live?
  • What did you like most about today? And the least?
  • Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
  • If today were your last day, what would you do?
  • If you won the lottery, what would you spend that money on?
  • Is there something you’d want to change about our family?
  • What has been the best day of your life?
  • What would a perfect day look like to you?
  • What did you like most about today? And the least?
  • If you could be someone else (real or fictional), who would you like to be?
  • What has been the best gift you’ve ever received? And the worst?
  • What do you like the most about school? And the least?
  • Is there a smart phone app that you recommend?
  • What do you think is your greatest virtue? And your biggest flaw?
  • What do you think is my greatest virtue? And my biggest flaw?
  • What do you hate most in the world?
  • Do you have any photos of a special moment? Can you show it to me?
  • What name would you give yourself if you could change the one you already have?
  • If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
  • What’s your favorite childhood memory?
  • What’s your favorite time of year? Why?

Answer your own questions first

A good idea to encourage your teen to answer some of these questions is to answer them yourself. This way, they’ll feel more comfortable and free to express their emotions, thoughts and opinions. Of course, try not to judge or criticize their answers.

“Teenagers might seem like the most difficult to educate, but if you succeed, your teachings will last a lifetime.”

– Anonymous –

20 Questions to Get to Know Your Teenager Better

Why it’s important to know your teenager better

It’s important that you strive to get to know your teenager better. This way, you can connect with them and establish a relationship based on respect, trust and empathy that lasts a lifetime.

The previous questions will help you reach this goal because your child, without realizing it, will show part of their personality and point of view in each answer. In fact, this can be very useful to better understand their attitudes and behaviors on a day-to-day basis.

What are you waiting for to have an interesting conversation with your teenager? Choose any of these questions and be surprised by their answers!


All cited sources were thoroughly reviewed by our team to ensure their quality, reliability, currency, and validity. The bibliography of this article was considered reliable and of academic or scientific accuracy.

  • Vallet, M. (2006).Cómo educar a nuestros adolescentes: un esfuerzo que merece la pena. WK Educación.

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