Attachment Parenting: Loving Your Child Beautifully
Loving your child beautifully means loving them with all of your heart. Forever. That is how mothers love; with music, emotion and poetry. The heart-felt love of parents is engraved in the hearts of their children for life. And this love makes up the fingerprint of family.
We’re sure that before you acquired your motherly instinct, you never imagined you were capable of a love so whole, so pure, and so intense. Sometimes that same profound love fills you with fears and infinite worries.
Am I doing it right? Does my child need something I’m not aware of? Is he in pain? Is she crying for some reason I can’t understand?
Fears are normal when raising a child. These fears force us to give the best we can every day. They drive us to really get to know each one of our children because, as we all know, every child is different.
Your child is unique, perfect in his own way. Everything about him is one of a kind – right down to the way he breathes.
And at the same time, without a doubt, you are discovering a new and unique kind of love. A love that transcends everything you’ve felt up until now.
It’s something deeper, more organic and comforting – your child makes a permanent mark on your soul and reminds you that time and distance don’t matter.
This little being will always be the image of perfection before your eyes. Even when he’s an adult dressed in a suit, independent, making his own way in life… He will still be your perfect little baby.
Today in “You Are Mom” we’re going to talk about the wonderful art that is to love beautifully
Loving your child beautifully is to create a healthy and lasting bond with them
Up until not long ago, people held in great esteem a sort of systematic method for raising children. We’re referring to the kind of daily attention that focuses on making sure a baby eats on schedule, falls asleep easily, and grows up as he should.
According to this philosophy, a child should reach each developmental landmark at specific times and in a certain order: speaking, crawling, potty training, fine motor skills, etc.
- In contrast, attachment parenting, or natural parenting, is not so focused on these types of objectives. The goal of attachment parenting is to establish a solid emotional bond with your baby, a healthy and meaningful attachment defined by love and closeness.
- With this bond as a foundation, we allow our child to develop at his own personal rhythm. We make an effort not to hurry our child or expect our little ones to take steps they’re not ready for.
- Loving your child beautifully in this case is to nourish them with love as if their life depended on it – because it does. A mother’s closeness is essential to a child’s well-being. And a father’s presence is also important in the formation of this bond.
Loving your child beautifully means knowing them and understanding their needs
Today we have more access to information than any other time in history. However, there are still parents that expect their children to be exactly how they want them to be.
- Education based on strict obedience, according to some pre-written script where the child’s needs are not taken into account, is a grave mistake.
- We should educate with respect and accompany our children day to day in order to understand them and know their specific needs.
- Loving your child beautifully starts from the very first weeks of life. Even when our babies are newborns, we can start to perceive their personalities. We can detect if our child is demanding, easy-going, anxious to be held constantly, or content to be laid down in their crib.
Little by little our children give us more clues, more gestures, and display more behaviors that allow us to know them on a deeper level. The time will come when we’ll have to help them manage their emotions, when we’ll need to understand their frustrations and calm their tantrums.
All of this is part of loving your children beautifully. It means not punishing, not yelling, and not educating through fear or imposition.
To love beautifully is to sew precious memories in your child’s heart and mind
A happy childhood is the groundwork for maturity, providing more psychological resources for finding satisfaction, triumph and contentment.
It’s about being close to our children and caring for them through comprehension, an active listening ear.
It means offering security and confidence to our offspring and making them feel valuable. Loving our sons and daughters beautifully means raising them with a healthy self-esteem.
At the same time, we must be sure not to overlook another equally important aspect: We must fill their childhood with happy memories. To do so, we need to be aware that our little ones need our time.
Our active presence and involvement in their daily activities will create meaningful and unforgettable moments, and pleasant emotions that will remain forever engraved in their hearts. And ours.
So devote time and dedication to your child. Love them beautifully. Give them the life they deserve and set them up for a live of happiness and satisfaction.
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