Optimistic Parents Raise Optimistic Children

Optimism doesn't mean the denial of reality, but rather a way of seeking solutions and looking beyond problems in order to move on. Being optimistic is a beneficial practice for everyone.
Optimistic Parents Raise Optimistic Children

Last update: 12 October, 2018

Optimistic parents create a constructive environment where children can grow and develop. Being optimistic is highly beneficial for all members of the household, especially children.

Psychologists have found that optimism in the home is a magic ingredient. It allows our children to grow up with security and fortitude. 

As parents, it’s important that we place priority on emotional education. We should never stop enriching ourselves with new tools and solutions. This will help us get along and make our homes a harmonious place. Without a doubt, these are conditions that help us overcome life’s difficulties more easily.

Given that small children imitate their parents, it’s important to know how to give them a good example of optimism. To do this, we need to be coherent, tolerant, respectful and resilient.

Below we’ll provide more in-depth information regarding why it’s so important that there be optimistic parents in the home. We’ll also suggest some actions that are good to put into practice in day-to-day life .

Optimistic parents, optimistic children

While the formula may seem very simple, it implies a great deal of logistics. When parents make a conscious decision to be optimistic, they must move beyond the abstract concept. They have to put optimism into practice on a daily basis.

As the old saying goes, slowly but surelyBuilding a positive, healthy and beneficial lifestyle happens little by little. Every action counts .

Optimistic Parents Raise Optimistic Children

Those who decide to parent from an optimistic perspective do their children a tremendous favor from an early age. And this goes beyond just helping them develop positive values.

It also inspires a critically constructive attitude that promotes self-awarenessTherefore, they’re able to develop healthy self-esteem, trust, courage and empathy.

Once again, optimism doesn’t imply living in a fantasy world. It’s not about deliberately ignoring difficulties or negative aspects of reality. Rather, it means taking an in-depth look at reality.

It means being aware that while things aren’t always simple, you can always make the best of adversity in order to move forward. At the same time, it implies knowing that circumstances change and we need to be flexible.

Children who have optimistic parents will always look for a solution to their problems rather than falling into the rut of frustration. This attitude will help them enjoy an improved overall quality of life. 

They’ll also serve as a great inspiration for other children their age. In time, they themselves will be great role models for others to follow.

Victimization is harmful to one’s emotional health

Complaining is directly related to victimization and, possibly, low self-esteemIf we have difficulty seeing positive aspects in ourselves, that will affect the way we see our circumstances.

We’ll start repeating phrases like: I always have bad luck… T hings always work out for others but not for me… Our family is so different from other families (said from a negative point of view).

When we use negative, victimized language in our homes, it affects our children. They take on a passive attitude of defeat in regards to life. As a result, this keeps them from going after what they want and fighting for a better life. They start to believe they have no control over their lives – that things will go wrong no matter what they do.

At the same time, excessive self-criticism is also harmful to child development. It leads children to feel insufficient – no matter what they do or how hard they work, it will never be enough.

Optimistic Parents Raise Optimistic Children

Raising our children with optimism is investing in their strength and integral development.

Advice for avoiding negativity in your home

  • Avoid victimized and destructive language. Instead, look for creative solutions to your problems, cultivate self-love and promote positive phrases.
  • Always direct your attention to the positive aspects of your children, and your own.
  • Explain to your children that there’s no such thing as “perfect lives”, “perfect families” and “perfect people.” We all have difficulties, even when we’re working very hard. However, we make achievements with courage and persistence.
  • When your children complain or criticize others, don’t support their comments. Rather, listen to them while at the same time clarifying that nobody’s perfect. We’re all responsible for our own lives.
  • Use what are called “emotional vitamins.” They’ll help you stay focused and strive ahead with enthusiasm and energy.

Now you know: If you want positive children, you have to do the work yourselves. Start by getting rid of negative words and destructive attitudes. Remember that your example is the best way to teach your children.

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