My Children Don't Want to Study: What Should I Do?

Your children don't want to study? Perhaps instead of scolding them, find out the reasons why they don't want to.
My Children Don't Want to Study: What Should I Do?

Last update: 13 April, 2019

My children don’t want to study, what should I do? This is a regularly asked question among parents. It’s very common for children not to want to study and this is caused by several factors.

It could be because of the pressures that exist at home or harassment from classmates. Or they may simply be going through a rebellious moment.

Keep reading to find out ways you can help motivate your children to want to learn and study.

My Children Don't Want to Study: What Should I Do?

In addition to the factors mentioned above, the bad advice and habits that are seen on television can also influence children. For example, some public figures may boast that studying is pointless because they succeeded without having to do so.

This is when you should make an effort to find out the reason why your children don’t want to study. And with the possible answers that your children give, you should offer the necessary help.

Of course, it’s not easy to communicate with children going through a rebellious stage such as adolescence or pre-adolescence, so you’ll have to be patient.

A few tips if your children don’t want to study

Listen carefully

Stay calm and listen to your children. Don’t be discouraged, lose hope, or become angry or afraid if they don’t want to talk. When your children want to vent, don’t interrupt them or they’ll become uncomfortable expressing themselves to you.

When they see how understanding you are, they’ll more than likely want to work through their problems with you.

Allow them to do other activities

Children, both young children and adolescents, need to have leisure time and not just focus on school. If you stop them from participating in activities and without good reason (listening to music, playing sports, or dancing), they’ll rebel against you by not studying.

Therefore, instead of having that “school and nothing else” attitude, give them time and space to participate in other activities. Participate in those activities with them. As a result, your children will see that everything must have a balance in life.

Be understanding

Don’t be passive. Correct your children when necessary, but without being harsh. If you’re flexible, you’ll gain your children’s confidence.

They’ll tell you everything that’s going on in their lives and trust you with sensitive matters. This will give you all the opportunity to come up with solutions together.

My Children Don't Want to Study: What Should I Do?

Help them envision their future

Together, you two can analyze the consequences of wanting to make the decision not to study. Show them the pros and the cons. Take advantage of this time and ask them about their future goals, what they want to do when they become independent, or what kind of career they want to pursue.

That will better help them understand what they must do to achieve those goals. Perhaps researching their desired career will encourage them to focus more on their studies.

Show your children that in order to become someone great and recognized by the world, they should strive to work harder and better themselves.


This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.