How to Hire a Family Lawyer You Can Trust

Marriage, divorce, child custody and similar matters are handled by a family lawyer. What do you need to know before hiring one?
How to Hire a Family Lawyer You Can Trust

Last update: 23 September, 2019

It’s very likely that at some point in your life you’ll need legal advice on family matters. So, choosing the right family lawyer is a vital choice. We have to have the utmost confidence in the person we hire. After all, these are very personal matters.

This person will be in charge of addressing issues such as divorce or separation, child custody, alimony, inheritance, and many other family issues. Because of this, it’s important to know what to look for in a family lawyer, in order to make the best possible choice.

Now we’re going to have a look at some aspects that we need to consider when choosing a family lawyer.

A specialized lawyer

One of the main keys to choosing a family lawyer is to ensure that they’re specialized in family legal matters. If possible, it’s best to look for someone who specializes in the specific area that has caused you to look for one in the first place. It may seem obvious but, in reality, it isn’t that simple. Family law training is indispensable.

A lawyer with their client.

The family lawyer you choose will need an in-depth knowledge of all the processes that have to do with family law, and this knowledge needs to be up-to-date with all the latest news.

If the lawyer specializes in the field that we’re concerned about, this will ensure that things will go as smoothly as they can. However, sometimes the case involves several different legal areas, and so we recommend finding a lawyer who has a multi-disciplinary support network. In this way, they’ll be able to offer you a comprehensive and complete solution.

An experienced family lawyer

The situations that lead us to consult a family lawyer are very important ones in our lives. The consequences of inadequate professional advice can be disastrous for us and our family.

Because of this, you should never entrust the case to an inexperienced lawyer. It’s best not to leave anything to chance, and to spare no expense, considering what’s at stake.

Whether it be matrimonial, patrimonial or the custody situation of our children, bad counseling can be much more expensive in the long run than hiring a good family lawyer, even if you have to pay a little more.

We would always advise looking for an experienced lawyer for any legal cases involving family matters. They’re the ones who will know how each part of the process works.

An empathetic lawyer

When dealing with personal situations where many feelings and emotions are expressed, the family lawyer must also be an empathetic person, one who is able to listen well and understand each side of the story.

These issues are often difficult to deal with, since a family break-up is never easy to handle. To resolve this type of family conflict, it’s essential that we can be confident about expressing ourselves openly about everything.

This is a very important point, because the family lawyer must know the true circumstances, down to the last detail, in order to be able to advise us the best course to take. They should be able to empathize with the situation you’re in, and get involved in such a way as to seek to get the best outcome for you all.

Unfortunately, not all lawyers are like this. You’ll need a family lawyer who understands his client’s claims and who knows how to apply those situations according to the law.

A lawyer with a family.

A realistic family lawyer

This is also an aspect that must be taken into account. It’s essential for the family lawyer to be honest and realistic about what sort of resolution will be possible. It’s of absolutely no use if we have someone who assures us that everything will be fine when there’s very little chance of that being the case.

False expectations can bring unpleasant surprises. What we need is a lawyer who speaks frankly and clearly about what we can expect according to the law.

The cost is important

When choosing a family lawyer, we can’t ignore the cost of the whole process. The lawyer should clearly inform you about the cost of all the individual processes and procedures that are involved. He should do this before you start.

Knowing the costs involved will show transparency and will generate trust between the lawyer and the client. You could ask the lawyer for a professional budget sheet detailing each action and procedure together with the cost involved.

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