How to Help Sensitive Children that Get Angry Easily

Many children are sensitive and become angry easily. Fortunately, you can help sensitive children and turn their sensitivity into something positive. We'll offer you some ideas.
How to Help Sensitive Children that Get Angry Easily
Mara Amor López

Written and verified by the psychologist Mara Amor López.

Last update: 27 December, 2022

How can you help sensitive children that seem to get angry at the drop of a hat? These little ones are more emotional, vulnerable, and easily offended – more often than other children. For this reason, we should be especially careful and identify if our child is highly sensitive.

Children that are highly sensitive interpret anything that happens to them as something bad or sad. For example, if they fall, they cry excessively and take a long time to calm down. Or, if someone corrects them or speaks to them in a loud voice, they become very hurt and downhearted…

Of course, we all have our own nature and personality, and these children will continue to be sensitive even as adults. Therefore, it’s important to identify and help sensitive children, and we’ll tell you how.

What are sensitive children like?

Children that are highly sensitive interpret any behavior, look, or comment from someone else as a personal attack. What’s more, they tend to respond impulsively, through tantrums or tears or a more violent reaction. We must help them feel better about themselves, increase their confidence and, thereby, improve their relationships with others.

Normally, when a child is very sensitive and angers easily, they may also have low self-esteem. And this sensitivity results from having a negative self-concept that produces insecurity and a fear of being undervalued by others.

How to Help Sensitive Children That Anger Easily

The characteristics of sensitive children

Weak points

  • Tend to be resentful.
  • Easily develop feelings of guilt.
  • Focus on their inner selves and are more distracted.
  • Complain constantly.
  • Tend to feel self-pity and believe themselves to be the victims in any conflict.
  • Have a hard time forgiving when they feel betrayed.

Strong points

  • They enjoy helping others.
  • They are creative people.
  • For them, physical contact is important.
  • They have a clear understanding of their own desires and needs.
  • They possess great emotional intelligence.
  • Tend to be very empathetic. They understand the feelings and needs of others.
  • Communication can be one of their strong points.

How to help sensitive children

  • Offer simple constructive criticism, which should never be hurtful.
  • Avoid humiliating punishments or making them feel bad.
  • Offer a great deal of affection, kisses, hugs, praise, etc.
  • Offer your unconditional love.
  • Make sure they know you’re proud of them and that you love them just the way they are.
  • Our expectations should always adjust to the personal characteristics of each child.
  • Avoid correcting, criticizing, or judging things that sensitive children do wrong.
  • Reinforce and congratulate whenever things go well.
  • Make it clear that what’s important is being a happy person – not a perfect person.

If your child is highly sensitive and gets angry about everything, try to reflect, and consider whether you’re being t0o demanding. It’s true that discipline is important, but it should always be healthy and caring.

Help Sensitive Children That Anger Easily

How to help sensitive children turn their sensitivity into something positive

  • Don’t try to cheer them up or downplay what they’re feeling.
  • All children need to be heard, but sensitive children need it even more in order to be able to develop their personality.
  • Always listen to your children, even if you don’t think what they’re telling you is important.
  • Pay attention to their feelings. If they share a problem with you, listen attentively without judging. They’re not expecting you to give them a solution, they just want to feel accompanied and heard.
  • Use phrases that express empathy, never accusations or criticism.
  • Give them space and time to feel better. Let them have as much time as they need without rushing them, or you’ll lose everything you’ve gained. You need to be patient.
  • Help sensitive children to learn to forgive and forget offenses. Show empathy regarding their feelings and help them manage their emotions. That way, in the end, they’ll come to recognize that they too can make mistakes and ask for forgiveness.

Now you know what characterizes sensitive children and how you can help them. So, all that’s left is putting the above suggestions into practice if you’re dealing with a child that’s highly sensitive. Without a doubt, he or she can turn this sensitivity into a strength. A good education will turn him or her into an exceptional adult.

What’s more, you can apply these ideas any time, even with children that aren’t highly sensitive. So, what are you waiting for?


This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.